To be clear, it wasnРІР‚в„ўt as if no one in history had ever celebrated birthdays before. A 2018 video from Conde Nast Traveler, featuring people from 70 different countries singing their nationsРІР‚в„ў traditional birthday songs, reveals that the song is also standard in countries ranging from France, Spain, Germany, and Italy to China, South Korea, South Africa, Malaysia, Lebanon, Egypt, and beyond.Р”Р„ccording to scholar Elizabeth Pleck, birthday parties did not become common even among wealthy Americans until the late 1830s modern birthday cakes emerged after 1850 and peer-culture birthday parties, involving children of the same age as the child whose birthday was being celebrated, emerged between 18, after American urban public schools became age-graded. Today, РІР‚СљHappy BirthdayРІР‚Сњ is the most-sung ditty in the English language, according to the Guinness Book of World Records. But we can, at least, understand the roots of that awkwardness with a bit of historical context, as told through the lens of the birthday song. ThereРІР‚в„ўs no easy way to get past a birthdayРІР‚в„ўs inherent awkwardness, which emerges from the tension between our desire to feel loved and appreciated by others and our self-consciousness about that desire, with some healthy fear of mortality thrown into the mix. So whatРІР‚в„ўs to be done about the problem of birthdays-particularly when youРІР‚в„ўre an adult, and the more immediate gratifications (frosting, presents) have lost their luster? ItРІР‚в„ўs hard to believe that anyone truly wants to spend their birthday feeling as if no one has taken notice of their existence at all. Our birthdays, after all, are a reminder that time is passing, which forces even the toughest among us to take stock of our lives. And even self-proclaimed РІР‚Сљnon-birthday peopleРІР‚Сњ tend to want some kind of acknowledgment-a glass of champagne with a loved one, phone calls and texts from family and friends. But friends and family members often want to mark the occasion. Perhaps the safest route for the birthday-shy would be to relinquish celebrations altogether.

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